How many times do we meet interesting people? Plenty of times, sure. But how many times do we follow through and try to make these people friends? Sometimes we let these people through the cracks. Potential friends are lost because we don’t follow up and ask to meet up again.
What about with music? God, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard a cool piece and forgot about it a week after. We wonder why we’re not familiar with the composer or band that we should be.
It takes a lot of work and time to make good friends with someone. It doesn’t just happen over night. Making friends with music is just the same. We have to listen to a band over an extended period of time to feel familiar with them and to call them a friend.
I think it’s easy to assume that because you gel with a wonderful person at a party that you two will become friends automatically. And because Beethoven is great we think that he’ll become a part of our consciousness by simply going to and enjoying one concert. There’s more to it.
Like with friendships, there is music that’s worth the time invested. Like with people, there is music not just worth knowing, but worth loving. If we want Beethoven to be our BFF we have to spend time with him, get to know him, make him laugh, share in his joys and his sorrows. That is the way into music’s heart.
Inspired by Frank Oteri’s “A Temple for the Familiar”